My constant state of anxiety is even worse than usual, in anticipation of a safeguarding meeting with SW and psychiatric nurse and both my parents, this afternoon. My mother has moderately severe Alzheimer’s/mixed/atypical dementia and has recently been in hospital delirious, hallucinating, and with paranoid and violent delusions. Amongst other things, she threatened to kill all my children, to make me unhappy, and said she wished she had a bomb to blow everyone up. She was sent home to my 87 year old, less severely demented father, when she was calmer on risperidone. Within 36 hours she was delusional and agitated again and threatening my father, although he denied it once the psychiatric nurse arrived. Her risperidone was increased, which seems to have helped. Separately, my mother has comlained on several occasions to care staff that she fears my father will hurt her. He never has in 65 years but does get very agitated when she has told for long enough how lazy/cowardly/stupid he is, mostly because he won’t agree that her version of the world is correct, ie they go out every day, shop, cook, are perfectly fine and need no help, so you never know. Things have been a bit calmer over the past week and although the safeguarding meeting is needed I am dreading my parents’response - I haven’t told them- and fear it will destabilise a fragile situation. Plus the SW and nurse will inevitably disturb my parents’ afternoon nap (although they nap so much that could be true at any time), and given that I will meet with the SW and nurse first, ie cannot be with them just before meeting, any prior information I give to my parents could a. Lead to them insisting I cancel a meeting I cannot cancel b. Be instantly forgotten, it feels like a bomb waiting to explode. Nothing any of you can do, and you will have faced far worse, and I know I just need to get on with it, but any words of kindness or advice much appreciated x