I posted a few weeks ago about dad (84) caring for mum with demetia aged (84) and she is becoming more and more violent with him, and that he would not allow anyone to help whatsoever, well he's reached breaking point and after a terrible couple of days he's finally listened and agrees that he needs help, mum hasn't been seen by anyone medical for two years, she refuses to leave the house, she is totally dependant on him for everything and last few months she has refused to be washed or dressed and has become so very difficult to deal with, she can not do anything for herself except just about manage to drink a cup of tea and eats with fingers, she spills more than she eats or drinks, but it's the lashing out that's the worst she will not be taken to the toilet refuses any cleaning up whatsoever and screams and shouts at him constantly, he has agreed that this can not continue and we have suggested respite care for short period just to give him some rest and peace to think about what help he should have, the trouble is we don't even know exactly what kind of dementia or anything as she's not been seen by anyone except a nurse that came to the house and took a blood test a while ago, can anyone point me in the right direction and tell me what they should be entitled to etc and basically what I need to do to get the ball rolling whilst he's agreeing to it.