Hi looking for some advice! My step mum has been in a nursing home for the past 2 years with advanced dementia. She is doubly in continent, is almost blind and relies on carers for everything. She has had 20+ falls in the last 6 months resulting in cut head and many bumps and bruises but no broken bones yet. She was at ‘end of lufe’ In January but that was due to over medication. She has lost a lot of weight and now breast cancer is suspected, but dr advice is no treatment due to her lack of cognition and frailty. She is still mobile and has a habit of undressing. She doesn’t recognise my father or myself anymore but she will say hello and goodbye when prompted. She appears happy. Yesterday evening I received a call from the home advising me that during the previous night she had been found naked with a new male patient and ‘some touching was taking place and the male patient was very excited’ I haven’t been able to sleep worrying about what had taken place and have no idea what to do as the home didn’t seem to be as alarmed as I am. They apparently have to report it as a safeguarding issue. When I asked what they were going to do the answer was maybe put a sensor on her bedroom door! But where does it leave my stepmom, she is prone to wandering at night. Who should I be discussing this with?
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