Thank you all so much for your support especially as so many of you are fighting real battles. I am trying to be realistic and take things one step at a time. From seeing the SW this morning I have visited 4 homes today one of which is a real possibility. I will try & see some more tomorrow but am amazed at how quickly this is progressing.
It has been disconcerting not to have mum at home & while my priority is to find her the best possible care home I know that I will also have to deal with deciding what she takes with her. We have discussed this - Mum is a hoarder by nature- but I am trying to take this as an opportunity to choose the nicest things to take with her & leave what I consider rubbish here.
I don't want to put a dampener on your excitement but I would be wary of taking anything of value into the Care home. I found that things " go missing" from bedrooms. Glasses, hearing aids, hairbrushes and jewellery have gone missing from Mum's things . I'm not saying they are stolen ...just picked up and moved , or Mum leaves them behind somewhere , or they go to the laundry by mistake. The care home manager decided to do a glasses clean so she could check other residents rooms for my Mum' s glasses .