Hello
I will keep try to keep it simple after nearly 4 months in hospital my mum was discharged with CHC with a live in carer to be assessed in 3 months.
I was told by senior Dr our mum was being sent home to be made comfortable with palliative care package with a live in carer.
We discussed it as a family and would have preferred a care home but it was her wishes to go home and she didn't want any care but there is in no way she is capable of looking after herself, even with our family visiting her few times a week.
Mum is very angry, thinks everyone's stealing from her, after her house, stealing her clothes when nothing can be further from the truth.
We notice her illness is getting worse weekly,not knowing grandchildren names, even asking my son and daughter how many kids they have together,You can visit her and five mins later if that, she not seen anyone.
My mum has a bit of an Alf Garnet personality and one moment the African carer is lovely next she is calling her every name under the sun,to a point the carer rings us late at night or the neighbour has to intervene.
To make matters worse she lost her 11 year old dog just before she was hospitalised and thinks it's either been stolen, lost, or she constantly looks for it, we think her dementia contributed to the dogs death.
The carer said she literally goes on about the dog 24/7, she basically said to us why not get your mum another dog.
I personally don't thing this is wise as even though mum has a carer what happens if mum goes back in hospital or succumbs to her illness.
I'm all for making mum happy and if this gives the carer an easier time great but I'm just not sure it's a good idea.
What are your thoughts on this?
I will keep try to keep it simple after nearly 4 months in hospital my mum was discharged with CHC with a live in carer to be assessed in 3 months.
I was told by senior Dr our mum was being sent home to be made comfortable with palliative care package with a live in carer.
We discussed it as a family and would have preferred a care home but it was her wishes to go home and she didn't want any care but there is in no way she is capable of looking after herself, even with our family visiting her few times a week.
Mum is very angry, thinks everyone's stealing from her, after her house, stealing her clothes when nothing can be further from the truth.
We notice her illness is getting worse weekly,not knowing grandchildren names, even asking my son and daughter how many kids they have together,You can visit her and five mins later if that, she not seen anyone.
My mum has a bit of an Alf Garnet personality and one moment the African carer is lovely next she is calling her every name under the sun,to a point the carer rings us late at night or the neighbour has to intervene.
To make matters worse she lost her 11 year old dog just before she was hospitalised and thinks it's either been stolen, lost, or she constantly looks for it, we think her dementia contributed to the dogs death.
The carer said she literally goes on about the dog 24/7, she basically said to us why not get your mum another dog.
I personally don't thing this is wise as even though mum has a carer what happens if mum goes back in hospital or succumbs to her illness.
I'm all for making mum happy and if this gives the carer an easier time great but I'm just not sure it's a good idea.
What are your thoughts on this?