Hello, I'm new to this and have never posted a message before. My husband ,who is much older than me, has vascular dementia and I am his sole carer.
This year, his health has got progressively worse; he hates being on his own in a room, even if I am only in the next room he has to search me out constantly, this is very wearing.
He goes to a day centre twice a week ,this helps , but I can't help feeling so alone and isolated. Before the illness, he was a very intelligent person , and I feel that I am grieving for this person, even though he is still here in body.
It is almost as if he has already died and I have such a complex mix of emotions about all this which are very difficult to explain.
I just need to connect with other people who are in a similar situation , as I don't know anyone else who would understand.
This year, his health has got progressively worse; he hates being on his own in a room, even if I am only in the next room he has to search me out constantly, this is very wearing.
He goes to a day centre twice a week ,this helps , but I can't help feeling so alone and isolated. Before the illness, he was a very intelligent person , and I feel that I am grieving for this person, even though he is still here in body.
It is almost as if he has already died and I have such a complex mix of emotions about all this which are very difficult to explain.
I just need to connect with other people who are in a similar situation , as I don't know anyone else who would understand.