My OH is older, has mixed dementia and has started refusing to go on trips or go with me to places. He is mobile and still capable of personal hygiene but is dreadful with his meds and is obsessed with wanting to drive. I have organised for his family to help when I’ve had prearranged events but they have now found out how difficult it is and said I should’ve cancelled my plans to be there. They have not turned up on time after I’ve gone and he’s tried to start the car with a fob despite me hiding the keys.The family decided this was a terrible risk and moved the car on a permanent basis to his son’s, half a mile away. I would have to ask to use it. This has since been revoked. I have also been reported to social services ‘anonymously ‘ for neglect. I am his partner of only 5 years. I have no rights, no inheritance ( not that it should matter) and I’m not next of kin but I’m being blamed for things that are happening for the first time on our horrendous learning curve ; missing meds’ once. I fear the family, or part of it has a plan to get rid of me or sully my name. If they succeed, they’ll soon realise how hard it is on a daily basis to cope. Instead of taking it on though, they’ll bring in professionals. Professionals instead of me who really cares.
He still is very capable of self hygiene and holding a good conversation and his mental maths is superb! It’s just his memory and intermittent confusion.
I have a wedding coming up for some dear friends‘ son who I’ve known all his life. My OH doesn’t want to go. Am I supposed not to go despite the family having previously agreed it was ok? My OH is happy for me to go but I’m now worried Social Services will turn up and blame me when the family are supposed to be covering for me.
Btw the Occupational Health said he was fine on his own except for prompting meds and meals.
He still is very capable of self hygiene and holding a good conversation and his mental maths is superb! It’s just his memory and intermittent confusion.
I have a wedding coming up for some dear friends‘ son who I’ve known all his life. My OH doesn’t want to go. Am I supposed not to go despite the family having previously agreed it was ok? My OH is happy for me to go but I’m now worried Social Services will turn up and blame me when the family are supposed to be covering for me.
Btw the Occupational Health said he was fine on his own except for prompting meds and meals.
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