Hello everyone.
I am so glad I have found this forum! Reading through some of the storys has made me realise im not alone, and some of the advice/information is very helpful.
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2007 he was 63, he lives alone since mam died in 2000, at first he seemed ok just short term memory loss but now hes lost all confidence - he wont do anything. I'm 35 and work full time, however, i do make time to go and see him 4 times a week and ring him every day but it is getting harder and harder as i dont have any family so its all down to me. Dad wont accept help as he thinks hes ok, he wont have meals delivered, he wont go to the centres, he wont have a carer pop in on him, i think hes frightened to accept the help available as then he will have to admit he has a problem.
My partner doesnt really understand the pressures im under and it is really putting a strain on our relationship. Im at my whits end. I feel like running away but then whos going to see to my dad!!!!
I have tried to persuade dad to go to one of the centres thats available just one day a week so when im at work i know hes having some company rather than just sitting in the house alone but he wont because hes afraid of the unknown as he doesnt know what these centres are or what the people do there. Ive told him ill go with him a few times till he gets comfortable going but just as i think im getting through to him he flatly refuses. What do the centres offer? What kind of things are available there? If my dad knew this he might be willing to give it a go.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Ann x
I am so glad I have found this forum! Reading through some of the storys has made me realise im not alone, and some of the advice/information is very helpful.
My dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2007 he was 63, he lives alone since mam died in 2000, at first he seemed ok just short term memory loss but now hes lost all confidence - he wont do anything. I'm 35 and work full time, however, i do make time to go and see him 4 times a week and ring him every day but it is getting harder and harder as i dont have any family so its all down to me. Dad wont accept help as he thinks hes ok, he wont have meals delivered, he wont go to the centres, he wont have a carer pop in on him, i think hes frightened to accept the help available as then he will have to admit he has a problem.
My partner doesnt really understand the pressures im under and it is really putting a strain on our relationship. Im at my whits end. I feel like running away but then whos going to see to my dad!!!!
I have tried to persuade dad to go to one of the centres thats available just one day a week so when im at work i know hes having some company rather than just sitting in the house alone but he wont because hes afraid of the unknown as he doesnt know what these centres are or what the people do there. Ive told him ill go with him a few times till he gets comfortable going but just as i think im getting through to him he flatly refuses. What do the centres offer? What kind of things are available there? If my dad knew this he might be willing to give it a go.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Ann x