I think my memory pot has got a crack in it because I have just made an error. I had it in my calendar to meet friends in London and asked my daughter if she was free. She said she was so I booked a ticket for something I wanted to see in the afternoon after our lunch and told the others. I got puzzled emails back saying that they had all arranged to come to my town because of my difficulties with care. I had completely forgotten about the conversation which took place before I went away for respite. No excuse except I didn’t have a written confirmation. Two points here, one, they didn’t consult me about the new arrangement and two, coming to me didn’t actually help because I would still have to get someone to look after him. So a well intentioned move backfired because I forgot. It could be Freudian because deep down I had it in mind that I really wanted to go to the exhibition (Sorolla Painter of Light, if you are interested) because I cannot get to them any more, and going to meet them as I thought was a good reason to be able to go. So I just went ahead. I feel that I have hardened a bit since I had a break, I don’t feel I have to conform any more and I knew deep down that I would be doing what the others wanted to do anyway because we always do. It’s a good example of well intentioned gestures not actually meeting needs.