so the good news is I managed to get away & with mum staying with my sister. The bad news is that two days before going she went into a real decline & my sister who works full time has had to take on far more than either of us anticipated. Mums decline has been so rapid. Not eating so low energy so sleeping all the time. Not getting up. Not washing & suddenly becoming incontinent. For a few days I didn’t know how bad it had got - no phone signal but then used WhatsApp to message my sister. Since then I’ve had bad dreams every night - guilt for going away & guilt for my sister having to deal with such a decline. Due to pick mum up on Saturday- she has doctors appointment on Monday but unsure she will be up for the journey.
Mum is 90 & suddenly seems to have given up. It feels like she almost wants to die but is frightened. She has no interest in life. I feel so helpless.
Going away was such a bad idea. But my husband deserves a break. Mum lives with us so he feels the strain as well.
Is this the start of the end?
Mum is 90 & suddenly seems to have given up. It feels like she almost wants to die but is frightened. She has no interest in life. I feel so helpless.
Going away was such a bad idea. But my husband deserves a break. Mum lives with us so he feels the strain as well.
Is this the start of the end?