Hello and Good Morning
I'll keep this as brief as possible. A Best Interest meeting was scheduled for next Monday following deterioration in mum's condition. (Lots of 'risks' for me to worry about but she refuses to go into a care home.) Her care package is now 3 visits a day, meds locked etc. Main risk in my opinion is overdosing. She gets bad headaches (all investigations show nothing wrong) and the Carers give her paracetamol, but she can't deal with them so in addition begs paracetamol from neighbours, goes to local shop and buys them. No memory at all in relation to taking them. EG a week ago took 7 tablets in 5 hours. On Sunday she bought a packet of 16. The next day when I visited, all gone. I can't prove she took them, but can't be sure she didn't either. She also threatens to overdose to 'end it all'.
She took herself off to A&E on Tuesday. 2nd time in 2 weeks. When I collected her from the ward yesterday the consultant was VERY reluctant to let her go home. She wanted to begin a Section 2 and send mum up to the Geriatric ward. I'd told her about the paracetamol issue. She only agreed to let me take mum home because I told her we have the Best Interest meeting on Monday. She wrote on mum's discharge letter her concerns and that the process of getting a care home for mum should be accelerated.
Now the crux of my need for advice....The social worker (who is lovely, we have a good relationship...so far...) emails me late yesterday (she's aware of mum at hospital and consultant's comments etc) to say that the Best Interest meeting is now postponed because they need to put an ADVOCATE in place for mum. Delay might be 2/3 weeks before we can meet. I would NOT have taken mum home if I'd known this. I know what an advocate is and does, but my questions are:
Why is the idea of an advocate only just being mentioned? Why now?
How can I best prepare myself for the meeting when it does happen?
Mum can present to others really well....she's quite capable of telling the advocate she's fine and has nothing wrong with her!
Can anyone who's been through this give me any tips on how best to proceed?
All thoughts welcome!
I'll keep this as brief as possible. A Best Interest meeting was scheduled for next Monday following deterioration in mum's condition. (Lots of 'risks' for me to worry about but she refuses to go into a care home.) Her care package is now 3 visits a day, meds locked etc. Main risk in my opinion is overdosing. She gets bad headaches (all investigations show nothing wrong) and the Carers give her paracetamol, but she can't deal with them so in addition begs paracetamol from neighbours, goes to local shop and buys them. No memory at all in relation to taking them. EG a week ago took 7 tablets in 5 hours. On Sunday she bought a packet of 16. The next day when I visited, all gone. I can't prove she took them, but can't be sure she didn't either. She also threatens to overdose to 'end it all'.
She took herself off to A&E on Tuesday. 2nd time in 2 weeks. When I collected her from the ward yesterday the consultant was VERY reluctant to let her go home. She wanted to begin a Section 2 and send mum up to the Geriatric ward. I'd told her about the paracetamol issue. She only agreed to let me take mum home because I told her we have the Best Interest meeting on Monday. She wrote on mum's discharge letter her concerns and that the process of getting a care home for mum should be accelerated.
Now the crux of my need for advice....The social worker (who is lovely, we have a good relationship...so far...) emails me late yesterday (she's aware of mum at hospital and consultant's comments etc) to say that the Best Interest meeting is now postponed because they need to put an ADVOCATE in place for mum. Delay might be 2/3 weeks before we can meet. I would NOT have taken mum home if I'd known this. I know what an advocate is and does, but my questions are:
Why is the idea of an advocate only just being mentioned? Why now?
How can I best prepare myself for the meeting when it does happen?
Mum can present to others really well....she's quite capable of telling the advocate she's fine and has nothing wrong with her!
Can anyone who's been through this give me any tips on how best to proceed?
All thoughts welcome!