I've been away in Yorkshire for a week's holiday - sorry to hear that the houses available are not quite right, @Kikki21, and hope that the situation improves. Glad that you're gradually getting there with your Mum's will. Hope this weekend is a nice one for you. Best wishes, Marcelle xx
Hi Nikki 21 hope you are doing ok ,since your mum passed,you certainly have been very busy with lots to contend to ,fingers crossed you get the house you want xx
You are dealing with a lot Kikki21 I can't believe its been two months since your mum passed,so sorry you had a miscarriage,I also had two myself,the first time my mum said I was feeling sorry for myself ,I gave her a direct answer back ,my mum could be quite hurtful at times and controlling if I had let her be. Dads been offered a brand new apartment and he's going to take it and give it a try for himself and mum,much safer no stairs,but I can't sell the house ,incase he doesn't like living there after a few months , hopefully he will settle ,am dreading clearing the house out.Its awful when buying a house and there's a chain etc,really hope you get sorted soon xxx
Could you live in the house while the work is being done @Kikki21. Unless you’re planning to do a lot of the labouring yourselves I’d be surprised if you got much change from £15-20k. Are the windows and doors ok? That’s a big expense if they want replacing.
My dad’s been gone for 5 months now. Sometimes it seems in the distant past and others I’ll find myself in the supermarket thinking “Dad would like that for dinner..”. And then remember
Oh, really sorry to hear about your fiance's mother's health crisis, just at a time when you have so much stress about housing & finance, not to mention the grief of your Mum's passing.
Thinking of you, and hoping for the best. xx
Thank you @Marcelle123 - sadly it is business as usual with my fiance’s Mum. She is regularly ill unfortunately. She is still in hospital & the dr’s think that the pain she was having is due to her operation. It sounds horrendous though. She is feeling better now & at least she wasn’t having a heart attack. I’m just not sure how she can go on like that. She is only in her 70’s but I really thought she wasn’t going to survive this latest episode.
I’m still waiting to hear about the house offer.
A house has come back onto the market that I have seen previously. I would say it has got the ideal layout & is the right price, however it is on a relatively busy side road & therefore that counts it out! So frustrating though!
I had a lovely time with my cousin yesterday - we talk non stop when we are out & we discussed the issue of my mum’s ashes. There is a lot of bureaucracy surrounding all of this & she feels like I do that it will not only cost a lot of money to organise but also ongoing costs too.
She says while her brother is still alive then he will look after the graves but after him then she doesn’t know if his son will do the same. The thing is that I am also very unlikely to ever go back to that part of Poland - in fact the last time I went to the actual cemetery, was for my grandma’s funeral in 1983/4. She said that I could take some ashes to Poland & scatter them there & maybe take some ashes to make into jewellery & then bury the ashes here with a small plaque so at least I can visit if I want to.
It sounds a better solution to me but I know a lot of people would just want to carry out their loved ones last wishes regardless so it is a really difficult subject. Xx
Hi Kikki21, it is a difficult one, knowing what to do for the best with the Ashes. I think though I agree with your cousin, it sounds like a very good compromise to scatter some ashes in Poland and do something at home with the rest. It will save a lot of money and hassle and it will be good for you having somewhere close by to home to visit and remember your mum. Spending a little of the money you will save on a piece of jewellery with some of her ashes in, also sounds like a lovely idea and something you can treasure.
I hope your not rushing into buying a house and making too many compromises due to too little choice, make sure you choose the best one for you, especially if it's going to be your forever home. You are in an excellent position as a buyer with no chain technically, so make the most of it. I always regret not bargaining more and rushing in too quickly, when my husband to be and I bought our first home. I'm a big believer in fate, so I'm sure the right house will come at the right time for you, fingers crossed.
Take care.
Elle x
Nice to hear from you, @Kikki21. Best wishes for the bungalow sale & sorting turning out well, and I hope you do have a bumper weekend. xx
Thank you @Marcelle123 good to hear from you too & hope you are keeping well too. So the estate agents have said to my potential sellers that the chain is now complete & ready to go so this could sway them. I have a feeling that I may have to go up a bit more to get the house but fingers crossed that they will accept what I have offered.
In other news, my fiancé is stranded in between here & his flats as his car has broken down but it is being towed to his mechanic so all his plans have now gone to bits. His mum is still in hospital & he was due to see her today so that won’t go down well at all. We really need the car to be in working order as we are doing this event at the weekend. We had hoped to stop over locally as it is a bit further away but I don’t think this will happen now as this repair is going to cost money & no doubt he will ask to borrow some off me. Xx