My Dad was diagnosed with vascular dementia 3 years ago following a CVA he’d had 2 years prior.
Dad always been highly intelligent lecturing forces, mainly self educated over past couple of years he has become obsessed with conspiracy theories particularly the pharmaceuticals holding back the cure for cancer. I’m an nhs med sister myself and have assured him in current state of affairs nhs wouldn’t allow it from financial never mind ethical point, but this has escalated into him now believing he himself has cure and that this is what he was put here for to deliver this message he spends his days making PowerPoint from you tube clips we left him too it at first thinking this was his way of occupying his mind even if it made no sense and although we were bored with listening to same rehearsed pitch he was causing no harm.
This has now escalated he has attempted to contact Consultants, Police , MPs, saying he has cure to cancer and all addictions when he gets nothing back he boils over with temper verbally abusing my poor mum, then he started contacting people with cancer proclaiming same to extent my mum worried about telling him if some one in family ill, each time he gets no response he gets madder and madder and more and more abusive to my mum accusing her of some how intercepting or interfering with his message.
This past week we myself and hubby have been away on holiday with them to help shoulder the load as he is still able to look after himself although personal hygiene has needed to be prompted sometimes lately my Dad attempted to sell his idea we’ll call it for now, to hotel owner via manager giving him one of his memory sticks of info he now regularly posts out to who knows who and spent holiday badgering them and when getting no where screaming at my mum till she was in tears told us more important than there marriage delivering this message that he was worried big pharmaceutical companies would have his throat slit for the information he knows that Jesus was crucified for knowing less making us see just how bad my mum was really being treated accusing her of stopping it because she doesn’t have an open enough mind she told him she was leaving him when we return home he says he’d kill himself within 2 weeks too be honest I’m worried he’ll hit her he gets so mad and has been very handy with his fists previous but with me until I left home at 17 but to my knowledge not with her.
This eve my mobile rang it was him asking if my mum here stating had another row she’d gone in car had dogs I said maybe she’s gone to cool down then immediately rang her she was sobbing saying can’t go back talked her into coming to mine, she was very distressed same argument as everyday his bloody message and her stopping him at every turn he just kept screaming abuse at her saying hope your sister has cancer then you’ll all have to come to me for help I raised concern as this is escalating fast paranoia aggression ideas of grandeur almost worry of him lashing out she was sobbing shaking said she frightened herself as whilst he was screaming she was cutting up meat for evening meal and felt she had to make herself put knife down as she wanted to stab him to shut him up I feel he needs urgent assessment my mum has never been violent in her life and was petrified she’d felt like that. Biggest problem there is no way he’d agree to go voluntarily as he says he hasn’t got dementia psychiatrists wrong and I am in desperate need of guidance I cannot let this situation continue for fear if one or both getting hurt I have 2 sisters who both just avoid seeing him and think I’m over reacting looking at extreme measures as I think we’re heading toward section we did go to gp couple of months back told them all of this she saw him said she would re refer to psychiatrists also feed back to my mum outcome heard nothing dont know what to do but can’t stand by and watch this please please help
Dad always been highly intelligent lecturing forces, mainly self educated over past couple of years he has become obsessed with conspiracy theories particularly the pharmaceuticals holding back the cure for cancer. I’m an nhs med sister myself and have assured him in current state of affairs nhs wouldn’t allow it from financial never mind ethical point, but this has escalated into him now believing he himself has cure and that this is what he was put here for to deliver this message he spends his days making PowerPoint from you tube clips we left him too it at first thinking this was his way of occupying his mind even if it made no sense and although we were bored with listening to same rehearsed pitch he was causing no harm.
This has now escalated he has attempted to contact Consultants, Police , MPs, saying he has cure to cancer and all addictions when he gets nothing back he boils over with temper verbally abusing my poor mum, then he started contacting people with cancer proclaiming same to extent my mum worried about telling him if some one in family ill, each time he gets no response he gets madder and madder and more and more abusive to my mum accusing her of some how intercepting or interfering with his message.
This past week we myself and hubby have been away on holiday with them to help shoulder the load as he is still able to look after himself although personal hygiene has needed to be prompted sometimes lately my Dad attempted to sell his idea we’ll call it for now, to hotel owner via manager giving him one of his memory sticks of info he now regularly posts out to who knows who and spent holiday badgering them and when getting no where screaming at my mum till she was in tears told us more important than there marriage delivering this message that he was worried big pharmaceutical companies would have his throat slit for the information he knows that Jesus was crucified for knowing less making us see just how bad my mum was really being treated accusing her of stopping it because she doesn’t have an open enough mind she told him she was leaving him when we return home he says he’d kill himself within 2 weeks too be honest I’m worried he’ll hit her he gets so mad and has been very handy with his fists previous but with me until I left home at 17 but to my knowledge not with her.
This eve my mobile rang it was him asking if my mum here stating had another row she’d gone in car had dogs I said maybe she’s gone to cool down then immediately rang her she was sobbing saying can’t go back talked her into coming to mine, she was very distressed same argument as everyday his bloody message and her stopping him at every turn he just kept screaming abuse at her saying hope your sister has cancer then you’ll all have to come to me for help I raised concern as this is escalating fast paranoia aggression ideas of grandeur almost worry of him lashing out she was sobbing shaking said she frightened herself as whilst he was screaming she was cutting up meat for evening meal and felt she had to make herself put knife down as she wanted to stab him to shut him up I feel he needs urgent assessment my mum has never been violent in her life and was petrified she’d felt like that. Biggest problem there is no way he’d agree to go voluntarily as he says he hasn’t got dementia psychiatrists wrong and I am in desperate need of guidance I cannot let this situation continue for fear if one or both getting hurt I have 2 sisters who both just avoid seeing him and think I’m over reacting looking at extreme measures as I think we’re heading toward section we did go to gp couple of months back told them all of this she saw him said she would re refer to psychiatrists also feed back to my mum outcome heard nothing dont know what to do but can’t stand by and watch this please please help
