Hi, I am new to this but really need some kindly ears today. I am full time carer for my mum in law. We live together along with my husband. She has Alzheimer’s and type 1 diabetes.
My frustration is that she increasingly fights against any kind of request or help. Especially when it comes from me.We had to put her in respite recently and she is still very angry about it. Although she manages to be civil with everyone else. Yesterday she was especially horrible and so I left her to get herself changed for bed. She threw her dirty pad in the bag out into the hall for me to pick up!! Anyway this morning I gave her her tablets and breakfast but did not offer to help her get dressed. She dressed herself and put her dressing gown on over her clothes and slippers instead of shoes. That is how she went off to the day centre. I emailed them to let them know what was going on but feel that they may think I have been cruel. I have cared for her for the past year and a half and am happy to carry on. Do I just take it and let her treat me like it or do I say something.
Sorry long thread and not sure how anyone else can help but as I said I am feeling very low about it
My frustration is that she increasingly fights against any kind of request or help. Especially when it comes from me.We had to put her in respite recently and she is still very angry about it. Although she manages to be civil with everyone else. Yesterday she was especially horrible and so I left her to get herself changed for bed. She threw her dirty pad in the bag out into the hall for me to pick up!! Anyway this morning I gave her her tablets and breakfast but did not offer to help her get dressed. She dressed herself and put her dressing gown on over her clothes and slippers instead of shoes. That is how she went off to the day centre. I emailed them to let them know what was going on but feel that they may think I have been cruel. I have cared for her for the past year and a half and am happy to carry on. Do I just take it and let her treat me like it or do I say something.
Sorry long thread and not sure how anyone else can help but as I said I am feeling very low about it