Well, it’s our anniversary today.... we have had Lily for a whole week, and what an education she has been, for us both.
There is a tiny down side. Lily is doing a fair bit of damage to our home. It is impossible to tell her off or scold her. Firstly, she is deaf, so she can’t react to a shout, or hand clapping. Secondly, she is too darn quick for me!! By the time I get to her to give her my cross face.... she’s gone! And it’s too late! And, does it matter? And thirdly, nowhere is out of bounds, at least Lily doesn’t think so!
SHORT BREAK.... to clean up two of my orchids, grown from babies over years, that I didn’t think she could reach! Well, she can! So they have gone into the brown bin, and I’ve been down on my poor knees cleaning up. Totally my fault. Lily is only 9 months, she thinks everything is hers.
Now, the upside for my husband. He loves her and protects her fiercely, He is thrilled when she asks to sit on his knee, although she doesn’t settle for long. She lies under his chair because she feels safe with him, and he is so proud of that. He puts himself out to give her food, this is so good because he hasn’t been bothered about anything except himself for such a long time. He watches her, wants to know where she is. And he smiles. Smiles have been so rare, now Lily gets smiles. He does think he can shout at her when she does something he thinks she shouldn’t. He, more than me, can’t move to stop her, so Lily gets away with it!
Lily is getting better at night, she doesn’t start meowing until 5.30. We ignore her and get up at 7. When I let her out of her room, she attacks my legs.... I’ve said I’m not good on my feet, but I’m thinking about training her for Britain’s Got Talent, the expert way she walks in and out of my legs!
She has brought new life into our home, she has brought a positive change in my husband which is so good to see. He is calmer, nicer, more acceptable. He still gets angry and aggressive, but it’s not been so often. He still swears for no reason. But Lily has been good for him. I don’t know how long it will last, but I will take any crumb I can get.
For me.... well I have company, Lily is my friend, my baby, my comfort. I can talk to her... I love her to bits.
We both love her to bits.
Love B xx