Mum has now been in her care home for just over a month, still early days I guess. I visit her about 3 times a week after having previously cared for her and seen her everyday. She is not happy. Every time I go she complains that no one speaks to her, I know the care staff do but to be honest the other residents don't really speak with each other. Mum was/is a very sociable person and takes this non communication to heart and thinks they are all ignoring her which makes her cross and irritable. I have returned home today having spent an hour with her telling me no one ever comes to see her, they never feed her, all they want is money, it's 'hell on earth' etc. There was no way I was going to change her mood today whatever I said. I struggle with this, it makes me upset to see her like this and hear her talk like this even though I know she is well cared for. I'm worried this behaviour will also prevent her building positive relationships with some of her carers. I am the only person who visits her on a regular basis with my brother living abroad and sister too far away to visit more than 2 or 3 times a year. Consequently I get all this negativity even though I am the only person to see her. She keeps telling me when my brother comes he will sort it all out, he knows what he is doing! He too only sees her two or three times a year and can then go away again and forget all about it. I'm sure my relatives think that now she's in a care home everything is fine and I can get on with my life, sadly we can't all switch off our emotions that easily. Sorry for the rant the last two visits have left me feeling pretty sad and upset.