I do it to save my children. Who else is there ? Until 50 years ago OH was the love of my life, then I woke to the reality that he was a sexual bully , exploiting my love and blaming me for being unadventurous. Now, when I could leave him, I see him helpless and I’m drawn back by compassion to do my best for him. No way can I let my son and daughter blight their family lives by taking him on. Why do we do it? We all have a compelling reason. There are glimmers of laughter though. Having bullied OH into his first shower fo three weeks, filled a jug with steradent for his multiple dentures, two hours later I found him searching the stationary cupboard for the teeth he’d put there. [Not)) I went to my greenhouse to let out the laugh. You’ve got to take the humour when you can. I might be luckier than those of you caring for someone you love. It doesn’t make it easy though. Great admiration for all carers. Keep smiling.Bxx