I'm not sure whether I'm allowed to do this, but I'm sure one of the moderators will 'slap my wrist' if necessary! I've just discovered a book called 'The Selfish Pig's Guide to Caring' by Hugh Marriot (ISBN 09544233-1-3). It's informative, funny and very honest and I'm finding it a great support as I grapple with so many issues surrounding caring for my wife. I recommend it to all carers.