My heart goes out to everyone commenting. I know how devastating this disease is and what it can do. My problem is not that it's one of my parents. It's my husband! Do wives put their husbands in care homes? As his wife should I just keep going and hope he doesn't wander or lose his temper and lash out, or insist on going somewhere he doesn't need to go? Should I just stop hoping for a full night's sleep? I feel awful. I should be able to take care of him...but I'm falling into depression I think.
Hi KatieR
I have looked after my OH for 7 years with this terrible cruel disease. I have went through all the same emotions. OH went into residential care home on Tuesday. I haven't stopped crying since. My head knows it's for the best, but my heart doesn't. He is settling in well all be it has only been 3 days. Now having his pjs on ( slept in his clothes for last 6 months). Wasn't doing a poo for over a week last one with me was Sunday after holding it for 15 days despite giving him medication, he's been twice since admission. Also had a bath Wednesday, shower yesterday another thing he was refusing. Slept all night Wednesday was up and down all night at home etc etc.
I have not to visit for a week, hopefully 2 of my 4 sons can go today, after I have updated from CH manager. It's been really difficult and not seeing him is hard, but it had to be done for OH wellbeing and my own health. Worse thing is he was diagnosed at 55 is 62 next Thursday.
All professionals involved have been advocating CH for the last 2 years but I kept saying not yet.
This is not an easy decision to make for anyone.
Hopefully you can get support in making the right decision for both of you.
Sending you hugs, keep posting on here the support is great.
Rose x