Lost my dear, dear Mum last April to Alzheimer's, and I know that you all know what a dreadful 'journey' that is. I have grieved for her since diagnosis, and at each and every downturn in her illness, and of course, since her passing. Felt I was turning a corner after getting through a dismal Xmas and now this...
My wonderful partner who has been at my side, and at Mum's too, these past years, has had an urgent referral following a gastroscopy last Wed. We thought perhaps at worst an ulcer or hiatus hernia, but a growth was detected, biopsies taken then and there, urgent referral straight to GP, who made an urgent referral to the hospital, and certainly things are moving forward, we see a consultant and surgeon on Thurs.
But oh my, how blind have I been? He is a tall, strapping bloke and whilst he has lost weight these past weeks as he felt like he was having sensations like severe indigestion/heartburn, so was not finishing his meals, when I looked at him after the gastroscopy I could see a massive change in him. He looks so poorly, and diminished, and is very tired with no appetite, and seems for the first time ever, to be frail.
I think my grief over Mum has blinded me to his health issues, and that I have neglected him. I am trying so hard to be strong and positive around him since the shock of the gastroscopy findings, had a bit of a meltdown yesterday when I called 111, he did not want me to, but because his fluid and food intake is so little at the moment, it brought back issues I had experienced with Mum, and I panicked.
I feel 'on the edge' and am so scared of what this week will bring. I cannot bear it, but know that I must.
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My wonderful partner who has been at my side, and at Mum's too, these past years, has had an urgent referral following a gastroscopy last Wed. We thought perhaps at worst an ulcer or hiatus hernia, but a growth was detected, biopsies taken then and there, urgent referral straight to GP, who made an urgent referral to the hospital, and certainly things are moving forward, we see a consultant and surgeon on Thurs.
But oh my, how blind have I been? He is a tall, strapping bloke and whilst he has lost weight these past weeks as he felt like he was having sensations like severe indigestion/heartburn, so was not finishing his meals, when I looked at him after the gastroscopy I could see a massive change in him. He looks so poorly, and diminished, and is very tired with no appetite, and seems for the first time ever, to be frail.
I think my grief over Mum has blinded me to his health issues, and that I have neglected him. I am trying so hard to be strong and positive around him since the shock of the gastroscopy findings, had a bit of a meltdown yesterday when I called 111, he did not want me to, but because his fluid and food intake is so little at the moment, it brought back issues I had experienced with Mum, and I panicked.
I feel 'on the edge' and am so scared of what this week will bring. I cannot bear it, but know that I must.
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