Hi I am new to this forum and am seeking some help. My father in law has had Alzheimer’s for about the last 4 years and has been cared for at home by his wife, both are in their mid 80s. A couple of weeks back MIL was admitted to hospital following a fall, despite witnessing the fall FIL wouldn’t/couldn’t help.
Whilst MIL has been in hospital FIL has been cared forat home on shifts by my wife and her brother. He’s fine during the day however towards an evening he becomes very agitated and quite threatening throwing people out of the house, in addition hes awake and up for most of the night. He’s recently become a little more threatening and constantly going on walks. Things reached a head on Thursday when we had to call the local authority for guidance/advice.
They allocated a crisis care social worker who immediately deemed he should be admitted to an EMI care home on a temp basis. Whilst this was distressing for all concerned it seemed to be our only option. Whilst the home wasn’t the best standard we saw this as a temp measure and being self funded we started looking for an alternative home on Friday.
It was during visits to other homes that we received a call to say he had become distressed and wanted to leave, this culminated in him assaulting two of the nursing staff and a fellow patient. We were told we had to immediately go and collect him. As we are all new to this we sought help from the LA care team who advised we had no option other than to take him home and care for him there until Monday when another social worker would be allocated however even they were unsure of what options we could consider tomorrow.
So we are after some help as nobody seems to be able to offer us any. We considered getting 24 hour homecare however this is impractical as MIL will be returning home shortly, she is no longer capable of caring for him. Our view is he needs additional medical help but nobody seems interested in our view. I’m presuming no ordinary dementia care home will take him now he’s become violent. Should we be looking for a home who have high dependency/higher risk type of care. Outwardly he’s a charming caring individual however these more challenging behaviours have started only recently when he becomes agitated and wants to return home.
Someone has told us he needs an AMP social worker to have him sectioned however this seems a very drastic step and we are unaware of the consequences of this taking place. Do we lose control.
Any help/advice would be extremely welcome.
My wife and I live in the N west whilst her parents and family members live in West Yorkshire.
Thanks in anticipation for any guidance.
Whilst MIL has been in hospital FIL has been cared forat home on shifts by my wife and her brother. He’s fine during the day however towards an evening he becomes very agitated and quite threatening throwing people out of the house, in addition hes awake and up for most of the night. He’s recently become a little more threatening and constantly going on walks. Things reached a head on Thursday when we had to call the local authority for guidance/advice.
They allocated a crisis care social worker who immediately deemed he should be admitted to an EMI care home on a temp basis. Whilst this was distressing for all concerned it seemed to be our only option. Whilst the home wasn’t the best standard we saw this as a temp measure and being self funded we started looking for an alternative home on Friday.
It was during visits to other homes that we received a call to say he had become distressed and wanted to leave, this culminated in him assaulting two of the nursing staff and a fellow patient. We were told we had to immediately go and collect him. As we are all new to this we sought help from the LA care team who advised we had no option other than to take him home and care for him there until Monday when another social worker would be allocated however even they were unsure of what options we could consider tomorrow.
So we are after some help as nobody seems to be able to offer us any. We considered getting 24 hour homecare however this is impractical as MIL will be returning home shortly, she is no longer capable of caring for him. Our view is he needs additional medical help but nobody seems interested in our view. I’m presuming no ordinary dementia care home will take him now he’s become violent. Should we be looking for a home who have high dependency/higher risk type of care. Outwardly he’s a charming caring individual however these more challenging behaviours have started only recently when he becomes agitated and wants to return home.
Someone has told us he needs an AMP social worker to have him sectioned however this seems a very drastic step and we are unaware of the consequences of this taking place. Do we lose control.
Any help/advice would be extremely welcome.
My wife and I live in the N west whilst her parents and family members live in West Yorkshire.
Thanks in anticipation for any guidance.
