Hi,
I am hoping someone can give me some advice on my parents. There are both in the 80s.
My mothers mental health has been deteriorating over the past few years. Her short term memory is becoming very poor. Long term memory seems fine. She is nasty to my dad, accuses him of stealing from her and he struggles to cope with her sometimes. They are both very self sufficient, my dad still drives although how much longer for I am not sure. They can cook and wash themselves, do the laundry, the weekly shop etc.
We are waiting for my Mum to be assessed at the memory clinic so we know how to manage the condition. Also we need to come up with a plan for my father so he doesn't have a breakdown and give him the support he needs.
The live about 1 mile from the shops and amenities. They say they would like to live closer to everything which I understand though I'm not sure they have enough money to move anywhere nice.
My concern is is it worth all the stress of moving, especially with the deteriorating health of my my mother ? Two of the siblings live within a mile of them and can help where necessary.
In my mind moving in your eighties when you have possible dementia just to be a bit closer to the shops sounds like a bad idea, especially when you have lived there for nearly 40 years. There is a lot of disagreement within the family, I just think we should concentrate on managing my mums condition and helping my dad rather than going through the stress of moving them down the road.
I really appreciate your thoughts !
Many thanks in advance.
I am hoping someone can give me some advice on my parents. There are both in the 80s.
My mothers mental health has been deteriorating over the past few years. Her short term memory is becoming very poor. Long term memory seems fine. She is nasty to my dad, accuses him of stealing from her and he struggles to cope with her sometimes. They are both very self sufficient, my dad still drives although how much longer for I am not sure. They can cook and wash themselves, do the laundry, the weekly shop etc.
We are waiting for my Mum to be assessed at the memory clinic so we know how to manage the condition. Also we need to come up with a plan for my father so he doesn't have a breakdown and give him the support he needs.
The live about 1 mile from the shops and amenities. They say they would like to live closer to everything which I understand though I'm not sure they have enough money to move anywhere nice.
My concern is is it worth all the stress of moving, especially with the deteriorating health of my my mother ? Two of the siblings live within a mile of them and can help where necessary.
In my mind moving in your eighties when you have possible dementia just to be a bit closer to the shops sounds like a bad idea, especially when you have lived there for nearly 40 years. There is a lot of disagreement within the family, I just think we should concentrate on managing my mums condition and helping my dad rather than going through the stress of moving them down the road.
I really appreciate your thoughts !
Many thanks in advance.