Annakey I think you are very brave and I hope you will find the resolve to stand firm and not sacrifice your life as well as his.
You are quite right there is no joy at all in this and sadly no way to bring back the person you love. I have watched other people have their life slowly sucked away from them as they have sacrificed everything for someone who doesn't remember who they are.
We are 6 years into our caring and there may be many more yet to come, it is not a short amount of your life that you might lose it could be many, many years. The financial toll too can be very high.
Please don't think you will be judged harshly for saying no and please protect your own health and finances before it is too late.
There is a lot of good advice and support to be found on this site and I wish I had found it sooner.
Stepping back is not wrong and it will allow you to retain the happy memories of better times without the overlay of resentment and despair that this awful disease brings into our lives
You are quite right there is no joy at all in this and sadly no way to bring back the person you love. I have watched other people have their life slowly sucked away from them as they have sacrificed everything for someone who doesn't remember who they are.
We are 6 years into our caring and there may be many more yet to come, it is not a short amount of your life that you might lose it could be many, many years. The financial toll too can be very high.
Please don't think you will be judged harshly for saying no and please protect your own health and finances before it is too late.
There is a lot of good advice and support to be found on this site and I wish I had found it sooner.
Stepping back is not wrong and it will allow you to retain the happy memories of better times without the overlay of resentment and despair that this awful disease brings into our lives