My Mum has dementia she has for some years now, but she is now in a dementia unit in a care home. I have two older sister’s & a niece, who live locally to my Mum, who visit her regularly and have taken care of everything.
Basically I have not been able to come to terms with it, I have always been really close to my Mum and I have buried my head in the sand, made every excuse possible to avoid visiting her, how bad is that. My very eldest sister telling me when to visit her & putting pressure on me too hasn’t helped matters.
I suffer with anxiety and depression, I have been off work with my anxiety for several weeks. Yesterday was my Mum’s 81st Birthday, so I asked my sister to wish Mum a very Happy Birthday & to send my love & to tell my mum we would see her soon, which she did willingly and sent me a photo of my Mum with her cake and cards. I just broke down and sobbed, that wasn’t my Mum, she has deteriorated so much in a year.
Will I ever come to terms with it? How can I talk to my sisters about how I feel, when they have had to get on with it, (neither of them were particularly close to my Mum, my middle sister has been absolutely brilliant with my Mum though), I just don’t know what to do?
Basically I have not been able to come to terms with it, I have always been really close to my Mum and I have buried my head in the sand, made every excuse possible to avoid visiting her, how bad is that. My very eldest sister telling me when to visit her & putting pressure on me too hasn’t helped matters.
I suffer with anxiety and depression, I have been off work with my anxiety for several weeks. Yesterday was my Mum’s 81st Birthday, so I asked my sister to wish Mum a very Happy Birthday & to send my love & to tell my mum we would see her soon, which she did willingly and sent me a photo of my Mum with her cake and cards. I just broke down and sobbed, that wasn’t my Mum, she has deteriorated so much in a year.
Will I ever come to terms with it? How can I talk to my sisters about how I feel, when they have had to get on with it, (neither of them were particularly close to my Mum, my middle sister has been absolutely brilliant with my Mum though), I just don’t know what to do?