Hi Everyone,
New to Forum. Mum is 82 and in End Stage Dementia. I looked after her at home for three years when the rest of the family could not be bothered. In the end she had to go into a care home. I suffer from depression and my Mum's poor health was bringing me down too. At first everything was fine with care home but then Mum got attacked by a resident. She was distraught but nothing was done. I raised the matter with the Council but they did as little as they could get away with. Nothing changed. Mum was without water, Mum defecated in public twice in the home's coffee lounge, I found her sobbing in bed covered in urine on numerous occasions. I complained to the home but nothing was done. I complained to the Council but they said 'it was dementia'. She has had four unwitnessed falls and ended up in A & E each time - distraught, terrified and each time with a decline in her mental health. After the fifth visit she was found to have a chest infection and flu. She has just been returned to the home and is continuing her refusal now of food, water and medication.
The Council have elected to return her to the same place, despite my wanting her moved. This is after numerous Safeguards I have raised. The feeling I have got is that if the Council did move her it would be a comment on the care home and they would then have to answer the question of 'What about all the other residents?' I have emailed the CE, Head of Social Services, Head of Complaints etc but got nowhere. I sat with Mum two hours on a concrete floor at Christmas waiting for an ambulance for her third trip to A & E and sent my Mum's photo. She looked like one of those dreadful news stories about pensioners being mugged.
I have a solicitor. We are approaching the Ombudsman but I am told that could take months. Mum probably hasn't got months. Am I wrong to say that this is what the Council and care home is banking upon? I am so angry. This is my Mum. I want to approach the media. Is that wrong?
New to Forum. Mum is 82 and in End Stage Dementia. I looked after her at home for three years when the rest of the family could not be bothered. In the end she had to go into a care home. I suffer from depression and my Mum's poor health was bringing me down too. At first everything was fine with care home but then Mum got attacked by a resident. She was distraught but nothing was done. I raised the matter with the Council but they did as little as they could get away with. Nothing changed. Mum was without water, Mum defecated in public twice in the home's coffee lounge, I found her sobbing in bed covered in urine on numerous occasions. I complained to the home but nothing was done. I complained to the Council but they said 'it was dementia'. She has had four unwitnessed falls and ended up in A & E each time - distraught, terrified and each time with a decline in her mental health. After the fifth visit she was found to have a chest infection and flu. She has just been returned to the home and is continuing her refusal now of food, water and medication.
The Council have elected to return her to the same place, despite my wanting her moved. This is after numerous Safeguards I have raised. The feeling I have got is that if the Council did move her it would be a comment on the care home and they would then have to answer the question of 'What about all the other residents?' I have emailed the CE, Head of Social Services, Head of Complaints etc but got nowhere. I sat with Mum two hours on a concrete floor at Christmas waiting for an ambulance for her third trip to A & E and sent my Mum's photo. She looked like one of those dreadful news stories about pensioners being mugged.
I have a solicitor. We are approaching the Ombudsman but I am told that could take months. Mum probably hasn't got months. Am I wrong to say that this is what the Council and care home is banking upon? I am so angry. This is my Mum. I want to approach the media. Is that wrong?
