Oh Alice how beautiful, how full of insight. I am sorry about that mouth infection. Yes, as you were, we can be the life and soul, making sure others enjoy themselves, it is what we do.Toony and Geraldine, I am sorry about the lifts, they can be so frustrating to fix, we were in retirement flats and they were a real bane. We are now in a bungalow!
I think for some of us this positive outlook is like an amour that has got welded into our being to protect us.
Like amour it works but it can get a bit heavy to carry around!
Yesterday I managed to get a lift for the two of us to a club lunch followed by an activity, I listened to people, told stories to make them laugh and to keep conversations flowing and inclusive.
This was followed by a welcome visitor who needed full on attention, by night my mouth infection was roaring, I am selftreating to try and prevent it getting worse.
The thing is people do not want to hear this. Most are so wrapped up in their own lives, they look upon us with a false pity. If this pity turned in to practical help it would be altogether different.
Often, and I may be uncharitable, people give words of sympathy such a Poor ........... almost as a talisman to protect their own fears. A friend, and we are friends, has said how her husband still has a brilliant mind, as if saying so will make it so. (Behaviours already tell a different story) she tends to be condescending sometimes as if it could not possibly happen to them. I really hope it does not, they do not have the amour.
I love you posts, your ability to see the positive however hard inside.
Love to you both, Alice
And I so agree about the practical help. Or rather lack of ...
I wish, I wish a brilliant mind was a protection against the difficulties of life. Think Alan Turin. And the thousands of brilliant minds damaged by dementia ...
I love your analysis of the armour.
Just about to post my daily report. At present I am trying to dry everything, I got caught in the most astonishing hail shower. More in a minute.
Love best and great thanks, Geraldinexxxx