I to am feeling sad. Mum had a very strickt Irish.catholic upbringing. Never in my 46 years have I heard mum swear, not until now that is. She lives alone and is not looking after herself very well. She goes to a day centre 5 days a week & has a nice meal so I know shes eaten on those days. I take her shopping on Tuesdays & first stop is a full English breakfast which she loves, Sundays she spends with either Sis or me. But her house is not looking too good these days. Her toilets are disgusting but she wont clean them! Sis does what she can (Im disabled & can't get into mums house cos of steps) she won't bath/shower & wears the same clothes day in day out. Sis & I decided mum needs a cleaner to help with the chores. Her washing machine has broke but she wont get a new one. The thermostate on the fridge doesn't work & we're worried she might eat unfit food but she won't get a new one & last Sat her hoover blew up. For Petes sake how m,uch more can go wrong! A friend of my sisters (who she trusts) has offered to clean mums house but when sis introduced her to mum she had a blue rinse & told my sis in no uncertain terms to F**"" off & mind her own business. She doesn't need a cleaner. You can smell mums toilets when you open her front door & its nasty. Sis & I have arranged for the cleaner to do mums house when shes at the day centre, weve given her a key as we can't let mum carry on this way but she told my sis that she'd punch her face for her if she didn't get out of her house & to p*** off & leave her alone. Ive organised a new fridge, washing machine & hoover to be delivered when mums out again. Were only trying to HELP her for crying out loud. I know that under normal circumstances mum would be mortified if she knew what she had said to us but I still wrestle with the fact that she can say such awful things, I'm so upset. As Sue said about her Dad, my mum too has become Jekkel & Hyde. I no longer know this woman & its breaking my heart to see her this way. Trouble is I know its not going to get better & I already feel like an abused child. Nothing we do is right! Thanks for listening & I apologise for feeling a bit sorry for myself. Tomorrow is another day. Thank goodness for this site
Lyn
Lyn