There has already been some added value because he has really enjoyed a video on YouTube about the ship. I think he will be entertained before during and after, and whatever he understands about it, he has perked up. So I am using the forthcoming cruise in 5 weeks time, down to Spain and back to entertain him. Booking so late I got a good deal. The insurance was the difficult bit and I really had to search around and finally it was a friend who recommended this company . I have just realised that we celebrate our 54th wedding anniversary in March, I really had forgotten, imagine that! I think it’s because I have had so much else to worry about. The trip can be a present to ourselves to celebrate. I was beginning to feel that struggling through the past 4 months has taken its toll and I have felt quite dragged down, so now I have a holiday to look forward to.
The other thing I have realised that I must do now is be economical with the truth. I read about ‘love lies’ on TP ages ago but at the time I wanted to be as open as possible about what we were doing, thinking it would help to keep his memory going, but now I avoid making him agitated by telling him differently from what I am actually doing. A good example is that he hates it when I say I am walking somewhere and says why don’t you drive over and over. So now I shall just agree with him and pretend that I am driving. Hope I don’t come unstuck!
I have got both Assistance Allowance and Council Tax rebate organised and that helps with looking after him.