I'm in a real quandary.
When mum was diagnosed at the end of last year the doctor recommended getting a PoA against the time it might be needed. Unfortunately I have a 'ghost' sibling who does flap all to support mum (even forgot her birthday this week). The minute I mentioned this to her - as I understood was required - she was on it like a starving lion after a gazelle. 'We can both do it'. Since then she's done nothing to be of any practical help.
The thing is that mum has told me several times that she doesn't want my sister to act for her. I have tried to explain why this isn't a great idea and if she really wants to exclude my sister I can't be the one to tell her. I just know there's going to be an explosion and I will be blamed.
What should I do? I have tried to persuade her to include us both but she's not going to do that nor is she keen to tell my sister herself.
Any advice would be much appreciated
When mum was diagnosed at the end of last year the doctor recommended getting a PoA against the time it might be needed. Unfortunately I have a 'ghost' sibling who does flap all to support mum (even forgot her birthday this week). The minute I mentioned this to her - as I understood was required - she was on it like a starving lion after a gazelle. 'We can both do it'. Since then she's done nothing to be of any practical help.
The thing is that mum has told me several times that she doesn't want my sister to act for her. I have tried to explain why this isn't a great idea and if she really wants to exclude my sister I can't be the one to tell her. I just know there's going to be an explosion and I will be blamed.
What should I do? I have tried to persuade her to include us both but she's not going to do that nor is she keen to tell my sister herself.
Any advice would be much appreciated