I was thinking the very same thing Grahamstown this morning, our husband's are at a similar stage.
I have tried for day centres to no avail and I am thinking we are now past the need.
My husband's needs have changed. Could I get him out on time with all the anxious anticipation?
The advantage would have been I would have had some free time but with no transport could not have gone further than the village. Unfortunately for me he cannot be left alone at all.
So what to do? Any ideas?
I have interests so use time when he sleeps to fulfill these. Early today I snuggled down to listen to a talk, unfortunately dropped to sleep, fortunately it is on the iPad so I can try again. Sometimes I put on earphones while he watches TV also with earphones, if it is a match he does not need me but likes to know where I am.
Our volunteer drivers for medical appointments have sometimes proved a source of a good conversation, my guardian angel works overtime! Today a friend is calling. I email people. Sometimes Phone calls are more difficult. My husband double guesses the conversation.
Should we do more? Yes, for ourselves, our own wellbeing.
That I think reflects back to those we care for more than anything. We cannot act lovingly if we are ground down. I know I have to tackle life in the morning as by evening I am like a zombie too tired to read.
Monday was a prime example, I spent virtually all day on the phone trying to arrange transport at short notice. By evening I exhausted and not so patient, I was a bit short and hurried. This rebounded back, my husband became more anxious and not so easy.
So the simple quiet life has its own blessings. I think I shall spend more on flowers and home treats, the manicure for him sounds a great idea. Easy meals, more garden time when the weather is clement.
I am excited by a smal Valentine blanket I have designed, some mentioned Bags of Love on TP, it incorporates all the family names around a heart. I hope I will not be disappointed. It is on its way, I will not keep it for the 14th. In my book any day can be any date I want. We once threw a surprise 'unbirthday' cake candles the lot to show appreciation.
Perhaps those of us 24/7s need to be more generous with ourselves, my motto is cheaper than a care home.
Not that things need to be expensive to give a bit of wellbeing.
Perhaps we should all treat ourselves to a bottle of perfume, flowers, a book.
Like you , I shall say The Advice now is .................................. to the clueless who for their sake I hope never have to be as clued up as we have to be on here.
