Hi all,
This is my first post about this. I find it hard to talk about it and the reality is hitting me.
I'm an only child, i'm 37. My mother passed away when i was little, so its been me and my father. He's 86 and has had a diagnosis of vascular dementia for nearly 6yrs.
Its been fine till around october time when his falling out of nowhere episode made him very confused and he had 2 weeks in hospital. His short term memory was shocking after it. Fast forward 6 weeks later and he falls and breaks a bone in his hip. His processing of things is even worse.
There are days i can't face him because i love him and can't see him like this. My own mental state is deteriorating, i have a small child and husband and work and everything. But its just me to look after my father.
He's aware his memory is bad which is heartbreaking. He can't use the tv remote properly, find his food sometimes, put a meal together. We have carers 3 times a day for food, he has a cleaner and me. He thinks we'll be able to stop the carers soon as he's fine, when he's not.
I don't have POA, i'm scared to introduce the subject to him if i'm honest.
I dont know what the future will hold, how long till the next drop..its just breaking my heart everyday. Even if i dont see him he's on my mind and i'm getting overwhelmed.
I don't know the point of saying this, its just i felt the need to say something. There are days i think i'm making up his memory problems and i'm over reacting but i'm not...
Sorry for the length of this. x
This is my first post about this. I find it hard to talk about it and the reality is hitting me.
I'm an only child, i'm 37. My mother passed away when i was little, so its been me and my father. He's 86 and has had a diagnosis of vascular dementia for nearly 6yrs.
Its been fine till around october time when his falling out of nowhere episode made him very confused and he had 2 weeks in hospital. His short term memory was shocking after it. Fast forward 6 weeks later and he falls and breaks a bone in his hip. His processing of things is even worse.
There are days i can't face him because i love him and can't see him like this. My own mental state is deteriorating, i have a small child and husband and work and everything. But its just me to look after my father.
He's aware his memory is bad which is heartbreaking. He can't use the tv remote properly, find his food sometimes, put a meal together. We have carers 3 times a day for food, he has a cleaner and me. He thinks we'll be able to stop the carers soon as he's fine, when he's not.
I don't have POA, i'm scared to introduce the subject to him if i'm honest.
I dont know what the future will hold, how long till the next drop..its just breaking my heart everyday. Even if i dont see him he's on my mind and i'm getting overwhelmed.
I don't know the point of saying this, its just i felt the need to say something. There are days i think i'm making up his memory problems and i'm over reacting but i'm not...
Sorry for the length of this. x