I know the red line (sorry if that makes anyone squeak about Brexit) that leads a lot of people to decide that their person with dementia needs to move into care or have more care at home is wandering and getting lost. Does this happen suddenly or do people notice that there is an early stage where the person doesn't get lost exactly but goes out at inappropriate times?
I'm asking because three of the four times I've been to see my mother this year she's either been on the way out of her flats or I've tracked her down in Marks and Spencer (which seems her second home). All three times she knew I was coming, and roughly the time I'd be there. I live two trains and a bus away so can't give an exact time of arrival. The time I bumped into her at the entrance to her block of flats she was on her way to her Keep Fit class. The class is five minutes away at 2.00pm and it was 11.30 in the morning. Yesterday I got there slightly earlier than usual, but when I found her,she'd already had a coffee and scone in the café, and was in the process of doing a bit of random shopping. I guess she must have been out for the best part of an hour already. When I asked why, she had a variety of reasons. She thought I might not come, it was a bit dark so she thought it was later than it was etc. etc.. I asked if she looked at her clock, she has macular but has a large wall clock that she could certainly tell the time from last year. She wasn't clear as to if she had or not. I don't think her eyesight is much worse, so I have the horrible feeling she can no longer tell the time from an analogue clock.
This happened once last year in February, but happening three time to me and once to one of mum's friends in the space of a fortnight make me think there is something else going on. Mum of course refuses to believe that there is anything wrong with her.
I'm just worried that next time she might decide to hop on a bus and get really lost.
I'm asking because three of the four times I've been to see my mother this year she's either been on the way out of her flats or I've tracked her down in Marks and Spencer (which seems her second home). All three times she knew I was coming, and roughly the time I'd be there. I live two trains and a bus away so can't give an exact time of arrival. The time I bumped into her at the entrance to her block of flats she was on her way to her Keep Fit class. The class is five minutes away at 2.00pm and it was 11.30 in the morning. Yesterday I got there slightly earlier than usual, but when I found her,she'd already had a coffee and scone in the café, and was in the process of doing a bit of random shopping. I guess she must have been out for the best part of an hour already. When I asked why, she had a variety of reasons. She thought I might not come, it was a bit dark so she thought it was later than it was etc. etc.. I asked if she looked at her clock, she has macular but has a large wall clock that she could certainly tell the time from last year. She wasn't clear as to if she had or not. I don't think her eyesight is much worse, so I have the horrible feeling she can no longer tell the time from an analogue clock.
This happened once last year in February, but happening three time to me and once to one of mum's friends in the space of a fortnight make me think there is something else going on. Mum of course refuses to believe that there is anything wrong with her.
I'm just worried that next time she might decide to hop on a bus and get really lost.