Not quite with it this morning, trying to ward off a cold in bed.
This post sounds familiar, not for my husband in the care home, but others there with dementia.
Sadly I have witnessed similar behaviour,and once I was told that a pair had ended up lying on the crash mattress next to my husband whilst he was recovering from a seizure!
It had to be reported but obviously no action can be taken against the couple.
As the brain cells shrink and disappear, the behaviour regresses. And perhaps the man thinks he is back in his youth. Obviously your mum doesn’t appreciate his advances.
I wonder if at night when there are so few staff on duty, would it be possible to have her door locked? Staff can access but not the amourous man?
It’s good that the staff tried a beam but not sufficient to deter.
When I visit my husband, there is a man who tries to get too close to me . At least I can fend him off. The staff are aware of his behaviour and as he is in the room opposite my husband, I lock the door whilst I am there.
I don’t like going in to visit and being confronted with other residents problems, but the ratio of staff to residents is only what is stipulated.
I end up taking residents to the lounge or showing them their bedrooms, when I arrive or when I go to make myself a cup of tea.
I agree above the music, I wish that the staff were more clued up about appropriate entertainment. I do wonder how much training they get regarding the mental state. Lots of training on handling and physical stuff.
How can you tell someone with dementia to turn left to their room or whatever, when directions are meaningless ?
Good luck with sorting out the problem.