How many DONT KNOWS does it take ??
SOUND FAMILIAR?
E ..."What's the matter?
ME... Don't Know!
E... "You Must know?
ME... Don't Know?
E... "How do you feel?
ME... Don't Know!
E... "You must know how you feel?
ME... Don't Know!
E... "How can I help if you don't tell me ??
ME... Don't Know!
And so it goes on. this will sound very familiar I think to those who look after someone with dementia and the truth is sometimes WE DONT KNOW! No matter how many times we are asked there are no answers because no answers will come to mind. you see we know we are ill and we know we get confused, though sometimes we don't remember why. The frustration hits the boiling point and BANG all hell lets loose and it all comes out
"I`m Useless
I Hate this
I can't do anything anymore
I am of no use to you anymore
I`m just a burden
My life is over
I want everything to go away
Once again, so on and so on, and sometimes even much worse, but please, believe me, that's just the frustration coming out. and more importantly ITS NOT YOUR FAULT !!! You, meaning Carers loved ones etc, do what you do and do it so very well, you possibly couldn't do anymore and its so appreciated, but sometimes we forget that because 1, we have dementia and 2, cannot see a way out of this, because unfortunately there is no way out of it, and?
THATS THE MOST FRUSTRATING BIT
Please Know we really don't mean it, and if anybody thinks its all Roses and Wine in our House
THINK AGAIN !!! Either that or ask those closest to us
Hope this helps, Please share
Norrms, Diagnosed with dementia
SOUND FAMILIAR?
E ..."What's the matter?
ME... Don't Know!
E... "You Must know?
ME... Don't Know?
E... "How do you feel?
ME... Don't Know!
E... "You must know how you feel?
ME... Don't Know!
E... "How can I help if you don't tell me ??
ME... Don't Know!
And so it goes on. this will sound very familiar I think to those who look after someone with dementia and the truth is sometimes WE DONT KNOW! No matter how many times we are asked there are no answers because no answers will come to mind. you see we know we are ill and we know we get confused, though sometimes we don't remember why. The frustration hits the boiling point and BANG all hell lets loose and it all comes out
"I`m Useless
I Hate this
I can't do anything anymore
I am of no use to you anymore
I`m just a burden
My life is over
I want everything to go away
Once again, so on and so on, and sometimes even much worse, but please, believe me, that's just the frustration coming out. and more importantly ITS NOT YOUR FAULT !!! You, meaning Carers loved ones etc, do what you do and do it so very well, you possibly couldn't do anymore and its so appreciated, but sometimes we forget that because 1, we have dementia and 2, cannot see a way out of this, because unfortunately there is no way out of it, and?
THATS THE MOST FRUSTRATING BIT
Please Know we really don't mean it, and if anybody thinks its all Roses and Wine in our House
THINK AGAIN !!! Either that or ask those closest to us
Hope this helps, Please share
Norrms, Diagnosed with dementia