Hello again
Things have professssd very slightly with mums journey.
She is now on constant lorazepam which is given daily in two doses. This has meant that the nurses do not have to give her injections of medazolam so frequently, as she is calmer.
When I visited today she told me she had seen my grandmother and that she looked the same. I gave her my permission to go to her.
My frustration is with the NH regarding eating.
She is eating very little. Today she had two teaspoons of her lunch, that’s the first thing she has eaten since Sunday lunchtime.
My brothers and I have said our goodbyes and we wish her to slip away peacefully now.
However the NH seem intent on giving her nutritional drinks and are always pushing her to have one more mouthful of food. I have said no to the drinks and if I’m feeding her, once she has had enough I stop. I don’t try to persuade her to have more.
We know she’s dying, and if I thought that by giving her sugary drinks or energy drinks or by keeping her eating, it would keep her alive and she would have a good quality of life, of course I would want this for her.
But, she has dementia and Parkinson’s, she has been bed bound since Sept and now weighs just 7 stone. Doubly incontinent, in fact she has most of the end of life signs. She has no quality of life. It is not my mum lying there.
I am sorry if I sound cruel, I just want my mum to be at peace.
Should I speak to the NH and ask them to stop pushing?
Things have professssd very slightly with mums journey.
She is now on constant lorazepam which is given daily in two doses. This has meant that the nurses do not have to give her injections of medazolam so frequently, as she is calmer.
When I visited today she told me she had seen my grandmother and that she looked the same. I gave her my permission to go to her.
My frustration is with the NH regarding eating.
She is eating very little. Today she had two teaspoons of her lunch, that’s the first thing she has eaten since Sunday lunchtime.
My brothers and I have said our goodbyes and we wish her to slip away peacefully now.
However the NH seem intent on giving her nutritional drinks and are always pushing her to have one more mouthful of food. I have said no to the drinks and if I’m feeding her, once she has had enough I stop. I don’t try to persuade her to have more.
We know she’s dying, and if I thought that by giving her sugary drinks or energy drinks or by keeping her eating, it would keep her alive and she would have a good quality of life, of course I would want this for her.
But, she has dementia and Parkinson’s, she has been bed bound since Sept and now weighs just 7 stone. Doubly incontinent, in fact she has most of the end of life signs. She has no quality of life. It is not my mum lying there.
I am sorry if I sound cruel, I just want my mum to be at peace.
Should I speak to the NH and ask them to stop pushing?