For those members who may not know our circumstances.I will give a brief update.
My Husband has been in care since August last year when it became impossible for me to look after him at home...I am disabled because of Rheumatoid Arthritis and angina and my poor Jim had become so aggressive in his behaviour.
He has been in his new care home for three weeks now after spending the previous 12 weeks on an assessment ward when he had to leave his last care home because they could not handle him.
This new home is for later stage dementia patients and also for people like my Jim that can be aggressive and unpredictable.
The Care he is getting seems to be very good the home has an excellent report from CSCI. He also has one to one care during waking hours.
Because of the type of resident the home has some have very off putting behaviour some will shout out, one screams one laughs in a manic way some are in poor phsical health as well as having dementia. In the middle of this is my poor bewildered Jim.
I am finding it difficult to visit him I cry at the thought of what his life has become I cry when I am with him I feel so guilty that I cannot care for him at home.
I am sorry to burden you all with this but I put on a brave front when I people ask how he is.
T feel so helpless I cannot move him yet again as this distresses him ..besides there are few places that will take him because of his behaviour and as I say his care is fine the meals are good his room is clean ... I just hate seeing him there.
I visit him every other day he is a 40 minute drive away I don't know how much more I can take but what else can I do
Thanks for listening and sorry it is such a long and depressing post.
Judith
My Husband has been in care since August last year when it became impossible for me to look after him at home...I am disabled because of Rheumatoid Arthritis and angina and my poor Jim had become so aggressive in his behaviour.
He has been in his new care home for three weeks now after spending the previous 12 weeks on an assessment ward when he had to leave his last care home because they could not handle him.
This new home is for later stage dementia patients and also for people like my Jim that can be aggressive and unpredictable.
The Care he is getting seems to be very good the home has an excellent report from CSCI. He also has one to one care during waking hours.
Because of the type of resident the home has some have very off putting behaviour some will shout out, one screams one laughs in a manic way some are in poor phsical health as well as having dementia. In the middle of this is my poor bewildered Jim.
I am finding it difficult to visit him I cry at the thought of what his life has become I cry when I am with him I feel so guilty that I cannot care for him at home.
I am sorry to burden you all with this but I put on a brave front when I people ask how he is.
T feel so helpless I cannot move him yet again as this distresses him ..besides there are few places that will take him because of his behaviour and as I say his care is fine the meals are good his room is clean ... I just hate seeing him there.
I visit him every other day he is a 40 minute drive away I don't know how much more I can take but what else can I do
Thanks for listening and sorry it is such a long and depressing post.
Judith