I have cried and cried normally we go out but not this year he had no idea it was new year I cried he didn't comfort me . I have this horrible disease .sorry for ranting hope you are a!! Coping better than me happy new year xx
Just can't believe how fast he is changing I feel mean for how I feel but sad for him I will pull myself together and get back to care mode just feeling sorry for myself xxNot the best of times is it -but onwards and upwards into another year when at least we are all still together however painful that is...wishing strength to all of us for what lies ahead
Thank you I am so sad and so scared of what's to come thank you for your reply can't tell my kids don't want to upset them xxIt is ok to feel as you do caring for someone with dementia and the rollercoaster ride none of us would choose or want is so blooming hard at times. I hope you get some sleep tonight and feel refreshed in the morning.
Thank you I feel much better today just had a blip first new year without my real oh that was .I feel for all of you going through this time and thanks for replying it really helps knowing you are all out there a very happy new year to you all take care xxxI feel for you Mag - we are all in this really dodgy boat and its sinking.
I try to treat him as normal - he wants to be treated as normal - he doesn't accept the dementia - and that is the real deep seated problem in this situation.
I sat and saw 2019 arrive with Alastair whatshisname on ITV news and Big Ben's Bongs and the fireworks, and a glass of something - OH sat in his room playing patience with his 5th mug of horlicks - he did not come into the sitting room at all. I stood at the door, and listened to the revellers outside and listened to the church bells ring in the new. Upset that he did not join me - but why should he? Why keep pretending things are what they ain't.
Resolution? Try, try and try again to get an angle on all this.
A Happy New Year to Us All!
Likewise! I agree with you all, and what a relief to know that others feel the same! I am thankful every day for TP!
Went to bed last night after OH carers left , laid awake for ages promising myself that I must and would try to be positive! But please tell me why does someone take 50mins to eat two slices of toast? Having being taught not to leave the table until everyone finished my positivity was failing me! He asked for his morning coffee 5 minutes later, by the time I had made it he’s asleep!!!!
Positive is hard!
Hello, I have just found and joined TP , although nervous about being online , I feel encouraged by you all, I feel I’ve found an understanding friend. I’m caring for my hubby , it’s been a year now and after reading everyone’s post things aren’t that bad for me. I find myself trying to normalise our day to day,as I’m constantly asked the same repetitive questions , I answer every time but my coping skills are waining . Some days are better than others and you wouldn’t know anything was wrong . Answers the phone , full on conversation , chats to the neighbours, enjoys a little walk.Feeling sorry for yourself is very human. Losing all that is familiar and loved is not easy. Things do go in phases with this illness though and so you might find the next phases easier to deal with. Stay strong and believe in yourself.
Some days I feel so scared too , stay strong ! Have faith , hope for brighter tomorrow’sThank you I am so sad and so scared of what's to come thank you for your reply can't tell my kids don't want to upset them xx
Hello, I have just found and joined TP , although nervous about being online , I feel encouraged by you all, I feel I’ve found an understanding friend. I’m caring for my hubby , it’s been a year now and after reading everyone’s post things aren’t that bad for me. I find myself trying to normalise our day to day,as I’m constantly asked the same repetitive questions , I answer every time but my coping skills are waining . Some days are better than others and you wouldn’t know anything was wrong . Answers the phone , full on conversation , chats to the neighbours, enjoys a little walk.