Hello this is my first posting although I have been reading other people's threads for some time. I have decided to post now as the title of this thread states I don't know what to do next. My mum is 83 next week and was diagnosed with vascular dementia in 2015 . She hasn't had a stoke or high blood pressure, in fact with the exception of the dementia and all its challenges ( incontinance apathy memory loss not eating except sweet things) she has no other major health issues. Yesterday after a long drawn out process I finally got a doctor to come out to see her and she has been diagnosed with scabies . This has now pushed me over the edge we have careers in 3 times a day since August when I had my last meltdown until then I managed everything myself . Everything is active with LPOA for finances and health and mum is self funding . I just don't know how much longer I can keep it up being at her beck and call, we have never had the best of relationships and she has always had a challenging personality that is more magnified now. I am tired and get little practical help from my sibling. Any suggestions will be gratefully received thanks