Hi there,
Happy New Year!
My mother is in the early stages of dementia, she lives on her own and has refused all care. She's 93 and been widowed for several years. My sibling does the practical care from his home miles away.
I don't see as much as of her as I should but I run a business which takes up most of my time, I live on my own and my own home to run.
I believe that mum should have some sort of support but my sibling will not go against mum's wishes.
Social care have been contacted as well as mum's GP has been to visit and has diagnosed that mum has capacity. Social Care have visited several times but it seems that mum has told them she is okay.
We have explored attendance allowance but we have to put Alzheimer's on the form and my sibling won't agree to signing it (we have power of attorney between us) without showing it to mum.
We saw mum in December for a meal out and it was struggle to get her to walk to the restaurant. She said it was a corn on her foot that was giving her pain.
I saw mum over Christmas again, going out on Christmas eve. Her ankles were so swollen that we couldn't get my daughter's size 6 boots over mum's ankles. Mum can't walk very far without holding on two people.
On Christmas day mum was with me but very unsteady on her feet, having to hold onto things as she walks around. Mum eats okay and really enjoyed xmas dinner that I cooked for her. However, her food got stuck in her throat and she was in a lot of pain and I had to walk her home. (she lives next door to me).
Mum can only wear boot slippers (with the backs broken down) because of her ankles and she sort of shuffles along. So there was me walking mum home in her floppy slippers sort of holding her up on Christmas afternoon, with mum coughing due to her food being lodged in her chest.
There was one incident that I feel disloyal talking about but I am concerned. Mum couldn't get to the toilet in time and had an accident and has to borrow clean underwear off me.
I have rung mum and she is okay now although she accused me of wanting to put her into care and I told her that is not what I want but I wished that she would accept some outside help.
I am going to back to work and will be working very long hours in 2019 and will not be there to help mum.
I am really worried about her but she seems happy enough.
Happy New Year!
My mother is in the early stages of dementia, she lives on her own and has refused all care. She's 93 and been widowed for several years. My sibling does the practical care from his home miles away.
I don't see as much as of her as I should but I run a business which takes up most of my time, I live on my own and my own home to run.
I believe that mum should have some sort of support but my sibling will not go against mum's wishes.
Social care have been contacted as well as mum's GP has been to visit and has diagnosed that mum has capacity. Social Care have visited several times but it seems that mum has told them she is okay.
We have explored attendance allowance but we have to put Alzheimer's on the form and my sibling won't agree to signing it (we have power of attorney between us) without showing it to mum.
We saw mum in December for a meal out and it was struggle to get her to walk to the restaurant. She said it was a corn on her foot that was giving her pain.
I saw mum over Christmas again, going out on Christmas eve. Her ankles were so swollen that we couldn't get my daughter's size 6 boots over mum's ankles. Mum can't walk very far without holding on two people.
On Christmas day mum was with me but very unsteady on her feet, having to hold onto things as she walks around. Mum eats okay and really enjoyed xmas dinner that I cooked for her. However, her food got stuck in her throat and she was in a lot of pain and I had to walk her home. (she lives next door to me).
Mum can only wear boot slippers (with the backs broken down) because of her ankles and she sort of shuffles along. So there was me walking mum home in her floppy slippers sort of holding her up on Christmas afternoon, with mum coughing due to her food being lodged in her chest.
There was one incident that I feel disloyal talking about but I am concerned. Mum couldn't get to the toilet in time and had an accident and has to borrow clean underwear off me.
I have rung mum and she is okay now although she accused me of wanting to put her into care and I told her that is not what I want but I wished that she would accept some outside help.
I am going to back to work and will be working very long hours in 2019 and will not be there to help mum.
I am really worried about her but she seems happy enough.