Hello
I posted a few months ago, after the sudden death of my father at the age of 73.
My mum (71) is in a care home with FTD. He would visit her once a week and she loved his visits. He would take her out to lunch and it was the highlight of her week.
It's now been 12 weeks since he died and 13 weeks since he visited and I think she has realised he is not coming any more. She is very sad and withdrawn. She is not eating meals but will graze on biscuits and crisps only. She is being seen by the GP, psychiatrist and psychologist so there is a good team in place.
It feels like she has given up and has nothing to live for now, when previously his visits kept her going. Her mother died when she was young and she keeps talking about her and worrying she is ok. She talks about her Dad not coming but we think she means her husband.
It's really tough and I am not sure there is much we can do, except what we are already doing. My sister and I both visit independently once a week.
My mum was told about our Dad soon after he died and at the time she cried and told everyone her husband had died. But now she doesn't talk about him specifically but obviously realises there is this huge loss.
Just wondered if anyone else had experience with someone with dementia who had lost a loved one, and how they reacted.
Many thanks, x
I posted a few months ago, after the sudden death of my father at the age of 73.
My mum (71) is in a care home with FTD. He would visit her once a week and she loved his visits. He would take her out to lunch and it was the highlight of her week.
It's now been 12 weeks since he died and 13 weeks since he visited and I think she has realised he is not coming any more. She is very sad and withdrawn. She is not eating meals but will graze on biscuits and crisps only. She is being seen by the GP, psychiatrist and psychologist so there is a good team in place.
It feels like she has given up and has nothing to live for now, when previously his visits kept her going. Her mother died when she was young and she keeps talking about her and worrying she is ok. She talks about her Dad not coming but we think she means her husband.
It's really tough and I am not sure there is much we can do, except what we are already doing. My sister and I both visit independently once a week.
My mum was told about our Dad soon after he died and at the time she cried and told everyone her husband had died. But now she doesn't talk about him specifically but obviously realises there is this huge loss.
Just wondered if anyone else had experience with someone with dementia who had lost a loved one, and how they reacted.
Many thanks, x
