You are right, Philbo, none of us know how long any of us has.
I tend to research, sort out options then relax.
But goal posts seem on wheels to be moved at whim. I feel I am Alice in Wonderland sometimes!
Funding issues are different when in a long marriage.
If it were a parent I would feel all monies should go towards a quality of care.
As a married person it is so different. As a couple we shared everything without a thought. Even the earlier paternal governments supported that idea when we first married!
Married women had a difficult time getting a separate bank account. I was furious when I was pregnant and my husband had to sign permission for me to have treatment!
I have inheritance rights to SERPS, at the time it seemed the easiest way to save for older age. My earned money went straight into the joint account, it did not matter it was ours.
It is only now that I see the problems, if we started now I would consider life differently.
My husband was always protective, and still would be if he was able.
I realise the added cost of visiting and caring from afar, but the heating and utility costs still have to be met.
My better self knows it will all work out but this has been a heavy week of hospitals and admin, so I am feeling fragile.
I have just had a battle over cross border NHS issues of living on a county border. I think, fingers crossed, I have achieved this, but the chicken has not hatched yet!
I do feel that being a Carer is enough without the hassle. oh, and my knee hurts too!
Like you I hope to keep us at home together.