I don't want my Husband to forget my Mum has died because he will then keep asking me where she is. I can't cope with that. Love lies are fine but in this instance I have to think of my feelings as well.
My dad died, we took mum ( with dementia) to the hospital in the hope that she could say 'goodbye' but we were just too late.
I was beside myself- always having been daddy girl, and had sat hour after hour with him as he slipped away- she couldnt understand and got grumpy when he wouldnt say goodbye.
We tried to include her in plans for his funeral. Anything she like ?'' Cake'' was the reply.
We took her to the funeral, ''why is Leslie late. Is he still at work ? Thats soooooo rude'' ( leslie was my late father)
Got her home and in the days that followed, it was ''where is he?'' ''Just tell him to come home''
''is he at your brothers?''
Did I want her to forget that he'd died? no , not ever.
Did I want her to remember 60 years of marriage? oh yes. Instead she thought he'd gone off with Jenny ( God only knows who Jenny was/is)
Its the nature of the beast sadly.