Lonely? Am I lonely? This is a question I ask my self.
My doctor suggested I might be depressed.
The situation depresses me, it seems the deeper we go the less contact we have outside the situation.
That feels lonely.
I am lonely to an extent, even though I can and do enjoy my own company.
I say to an extent because when I feel less buoyant I tend to keep to myself, I realise the danger of that. I know how I used to combat it.
I ask myself what would make it better now, I used to go to interesting talks, to exhibitions, study.
No longer. We had to give up the car, we used the bus.
We always met people we knew, of all ages, we mixed, we looked out for each other.
We might go to town have a coffee, pretend we were on holiday. We saw a morning film, greet regulars, go for the occasional lunch in a friendly cafe.
They were patient with the man I love and care for, I could relax.
I realise loneliness hit me when the bus was taken away, we no longer could decide to go out. If my man was a bit slow no matter we could catch the next one.
The fortnightly community coach, means an early start, too early for us. Early starts cause anxiety and hassle.
It gives two hours so is not long enough to see a senior film, it is too long on a cold day, there is no choice of catching an early bus.
The times are fixed and rigid.
The government talks of a commission into loneliness. GP are going to prescribe activities, such as cookery classes! Hardly any good if one cannot get to them, not that I need cookery classes, gardening or any other bright idea from pie in the sky.
I just need independence. I used to talk to people as I travelled, I am a good listener. I helped combat loneliness in others.
So am I lonely? I miss my friends who have died or are too ill or old to meet up.
I miss the equal relationship we once shared. I am tired of going it alone. I want to care but it zaps my energy.
Loneliness is like a fog, creeping up.
Lonely? Well, up to an extent BUT I am angry that I have been cut off from society for the lack of transport, of combatting my own lonely feelings by reaching out to others.
Local services, the librarian, the post office, local shops all added to community.
A friend had to give up her volunteer work in a charity shop when the bus was axed. She said that to her surprise customers were in tears at her leaving, as one said she cheered them up.