Hi all new member but struggling with what to do with mum. She was diagnosed with Alzheimer's 6 years ago she lives on her own about 30 miles away. I have a sister nearby to me we both have POA but she deals with all the financial side. Mother is self funding but has been an unpleasant person all her life particularly to me. She has a care agency in 3 times a day and has become increasingly abusive to them specially if they are not the same ethnicity as her. She was going to a day centre but her behaviour is so aggressive plus she is incontinent-urine- the centre have refused to have her back . She refuses to use incontinence pads so just wets everywhere. She throws the pads at the carer . She rings me constantly we just ignore the calls at home. She is completely dependent on the carers for meals dressing and until recently personal hygiene but now with the incontinence she has started to refuse this as well.
To be honest I think half of her behaviour is to wind me up. My wife and friends disagree with me . My friend suggested I put her name down for a care home but I'm waiting for the carers to tell me when this is necessary. Plus I don't see why she should pay care home fees if she's still going to refuse to wear pads. She hates her own home and is always wanting to go out but her behaviour is making things difficult. Should I put her name down for a care home?
To be honest I think half of her behaviour is to wind me up. My wife and friends disagree with me . My friend suggested I put her name down for a care home but I'm waiting for the carers to tell me when this is necessary. Plus I don't see why she should pay care home fees if she's still going to refuse to wear pads. She hates her own home and is always wanting to go out but her behaviour is making things difficult. Should I put her name down for a care home?