What the hell am I doing in this section? I wasn't supposed to be here for years yet ........ well, not unless I could offer something from experiences with dad or others years ago ... but here I am on TP - venturing between the Tea Room for a snippet of humour to lighten the load - the Raising Awareness Section to add to my battle plans and how I can use what I have learnt if just to campaign on a local level once I have more energy .. feeling more at home in the 'Younger People' section - anything, but anything than being on the main forum where there are probably people I have come to know who might expect me to be posting .....
But here I am ...... and feeling very isolated ... and odd ...... Does this make me a 'newbie' in this section? Is that what I'm uncomfortable with? Or is this just my grief ? Is it because mum was taken early before she reached 'late stage' so do I have any 'right' to be here?
I know Bruce has advise me against cross-threading previously ...... but KenC's recent thread and subsequent comments on it (especially Lynne's re the LGBT section) really hit home to me this sleepless night ..... and whilst I have wonderful non-virtual friends and others rallying great support at this sad time .... it feels like the time I need TP most I've got lost somewhere ........ and don't know where or if I really belong anymore?
I remember more than two years ago when the 'Dealing with Loss' section was first mooted that I - as many others - had reservations that people might feel 'shunted off' .... well I was right ... because that's exactly how I feel right now .... and whether I am in trouble for cross-threading or not I want to post this link and ask that those who may once again 're-jig' the site to consider the effect of the divisions which may look PC pretty but do actually foster segregation and - indeed as I feel tonight - a feeling of isolation and reinforcement of my personal loss ... which is surely the complete opposite of what is meant to be achieved ........? http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/talkingpoint/discuss/showthread.php?t=12812
It would be interesting to know how many long-term members and / or moderators having gone through the final loss have felt the same? Or is it that we don't have enough of those people still amongst us for the very reasons I am feeling tonight?
Karen, x
But here I am ...... and feeling very isolated ... and odd ...... Does this make me a 'newbie' in this section? Is that what I'm uncomfortable with? Or is this just my grief ? Is it because mum was taken early before she reached 'late stage' so do I have any 'right' to be here?
I know Bruce has advise me against cross-threading previously ...... but KenC's recent thread and subsequent comments on it (especially Lynne's re the LGBT section) really hit home to me this sleepless night ..... and whilst I have wonderful non-virtual friends and others rallying great support at this sad time .... it feels like the time I need TP most I've got lost somewhere ........ and don't know where or if I really belong anymore?
I remember more than two years ago when the 'Dealing with Loss' section was first mooted that I - as many others - had reservations that people might feel 'shunted off' .... well I was right ... because that's exactly how I feel right now .... and whether I am in trouble for cross-threading or not I want to post this link and ask that those who may once again 're-jig' the site to consider the effect of the divisions which may look PC pretty but do actually foster segregation and - indeed as I feel tonight - a feeling of isolation and reinforcement of my personal loss ... which is surely the complete opposite of what is meant to be achieved ........? http://www.alzheimers.org.uk/talkingpoint/discuss/showthread.php?t=12812
It would be interesting to know how many long-term members and / or moderators having gone through the final loss have felt the same? Or is it that we don't have enough of those people still amongst us for the very reasons I am feeling tonight?
Karen, x