Hi everyone,
This is my first post so I hope I'm doing this right!
My dad (72) has today received a diagnosis of Alzheimers. I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm only 26,i feel far too young for this to be happening. My mum and I have known that something wasn't right for a few years (my older brother lives further away and put it all down to normal old age) and it took a year to convince dad to even go to the GP. Now that he has this diagnosis I am feeling unbelievable amounts of guilt. It was me that forced the issue and convinced him to see the doctor, and now I feel like I've brought this misery on everyone. My dad is a stubborn man and I feel like he kept really trying to remember things etc to prove to us nothing was wrong. I'm scared that now he has this diagnosis, he will think there's no point trying to remember because the Alzheimers will make him forget things anyway. I'm terrified that now it's official, he will decline quickly. Currently he's forgetful, irritable sometimes and quite obsessive but he's independent, holds a great conversation and it's very early stages. My parents are handling it so well, already discussing power of attorney and they're so matter so fact I couldn't be prouder of them. I on the other hand haven't really stopped crying. I'm frustrated at myself because I want to be strong for them but it just feels so unfair. Even though deep down we knew, I can't believe it's suddenly real. My parents are genuinely my best friends, I just feel totally heartbroken.
Sorry to waffle, I haven't spoken to anyone other than mum and dad yet so there's a lot to get out I guess.
This is my first post so I hope I'm doing this right!
My dad (72) has today received a diagnosis of Alzheimers. I just feel completely overwhelmed. I'm only 26,i feel far too young for this to be happening. My mum and I have known that something wasn't right for a few years (my older brother lives further away and put it all down to normal old age) and it took a year to convince dad to even go to the GP. Now that he has this diagnosis I am feeling unbelievable amounts of guilt. It was me that forced the issue and convinced him to see the doctor, and now I feel like I've brought this misery on everyone. My dad is a stubborn man and I feel like he kept really trying to remember things etc to prove to us nothing was wrong. I'm scared that now he has this diagnosis, he will think there's no point trying to remember because the Alzheimers will make him forget things anyway. I'm terrified that now it's official, he will decline quickly. Currently he's forgetful, irritable sometimes and quite obsessive but he's independent, holds a great conversation and it's very early stages. My parents are handling it so well, already discussing power of attorney and they're so matter so fact I couldn't be prouder of them. I on the other hand haven't really stopped crying. I'm frustrated at myself because I want to be strong for them but it just feels so unfair. Even though deep down we knew, I can't believe it's suddenly real. My parents are genuinely my best friends, I just feel totally heartbroken.
Sorry to waffle, I haven't spoken to anyone other than mum and dad yet so there's a lot to get out I guess.