I'm all in a tizzy as what to do.
Mum is in end stages Alzheimer's, she owns a house which my brother, as the previous Deputy, was renting out....and pocketed all the rent and part of her pensions but that's another story....he died last year and now I am Deputy.
I live in the US and had to hire a management company to evict the tenant as he didn't pay rent since my brother died, 14 months worth of rent in total.
Don't know whether to rent the house out through the management company or sell it.
Mum's nursing home bill is all being paid for, she was all self pay but now the Council said it's being paid for.
Think it's called continuing health care.
My brother who had Deputyship managed to steal many thousands from mum, thought the OPG was supposed to watch over Deputies!!!
I am so stressed and upset to the point of not sleeping. Mum loved her house so much and it was very important to her that when she passed away her kids would receive inheritence from it.
I don't want to sound selfish and mean because I dont mean it that way atall but if I sell the house will the money from the house sale go towards mum's nursing home care every month? Even though she has the continuing health care? Does that stop if you sell the house?
Is this because she has under £10,000 in her bank account? (Brother stole money)
Don't know whether to rent it out or sell. I am finding it so stressful.
Another huge factor is my younger sister has severe brain injuries (from 8 years ago) and lives in a care home, she will never be able to go home, her inheritence is important as it will be needed as she needs care for life.
Mum's lawyer is Executor so in the end he will sell the house if I keep it.
Sorry to say because of what I went through with my awful brother I do not trust anyone and am imagining the lawyer stealing the house money!!!!
Again, sorry if this comes off as selfish, I reported, contacted etc so many people....OPG, COP etc to watch my brother yet he still managed to steal.
Oh, and my brother did not pay mum's nursing home bill at one point, the payments were deferred to the tune of £41,000 so that has to be paid back from any sale of the house.
Anyway I'm rambling, I battled my brother for almost 10 horrendous years, trying to get help for mum when he was abusing her etc then trying to stop him stealing from her so my nerves are so shot!!
Thanks for any advice, going to try and rest..
Mum is in end stages Alzheimer's, she owns a house which my brother, as the previous Deputy, was renting out....and pocketed all the rent and part of her pensions but that's another story....he died last year and now I am Deputy.
I live in the US and had to hire a management company to evict the tenant as he didn't pay rent since my brother died, 14 months worth of rent in total.
Don't know whether to rent the house out through the management company or sell it.
Mum's nursing home bill is all being paid for, she was all self pay but now the Council said it's being paid for.
Think it's called continuing health care.
My brother who had Deputyship managed to steal many thousands from mum, thought the OPG was supposed to watch over Deputies!!!
I am so stressed and upset to the point of not sleeping. Mum loved her house so much and it was very important to her that when she passed away her kids would receive inheritence from it.
I don't want to sound selfish and mean because I dont mean it that way atall but if I sell the house will the money from the house sale go towards mum's nursing home care every month? Even though she has the continuing health care? Does that stop if you sell the house?
Is this because she has under £10,000 in her bank account? (Brother stole money)
Don't know whether to rent it out or sell. I am finding it so stressful.
Another huge factor is my younger sister has severe brain injuries (from 8 years ago) and lives in a care home, she will never be able to go home, her inheritence is important as it will be needed as she needs care for life.
Mum's lawyer is Executor so in the end he will sell the house if I keep it.
Sorry to say because of what I went through with my awful brother I do not trust anyone and am imagining the lawyer stealing the house money!!!!
Again, sorry if this comes off as selfish, I reported, contacted etc so many people....OPG, COP etc to watch my brother yet he still managed to steal.
Oh, and my brother did not pay mum's nursing home bill at one point, the payments were deferred to the tune of £41,000 so that has to be paid back from any sale of the house.
Anyway I'm rambling, I battled my brother for almost 10 horrendous years, trying to get help for mum when he was abusing her etc then trying to stop him stealing from her so my nerves are so shot!!
Thanks for any advice, going to try and rest..
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