I know this is a common problem, but it really is driving me up the wall. My mum (who lives with me) keeps asking the same questions over and over again. They are.....
Wheres mum? I must go and find her! (she died 13 years ago)
Why havn't I heard from Fred, I havn't seen him for ages. (he,s her uncle and died 12 years ago)
Shes also keeping on asking about the house she gave up to come and live with me, she keeps saying she wants to go back (not possible, but very tempting )
While I'm writing this I'm thinking how trivial this sounds and shouldn't really be a problem, but it really is driving me mad. She asks atleast 10 or 15 times a day, each time swearing i've never told her any of it before. I feel so sorry for her not remembering, I can't even begin to think how hard this is for her, but its so frustrating for me, having to say the same thing over and over again. It wouldn't be so bad if she believed me when I tell her she knows everything, but she accuses me of lying to her, then I get angry and shout, then feel so guilty.
I know i'm not handling the situation very well, and I don't think I ever will, I havn't got the patience for it (I'm alot like my mum was when my nan had alzheimers, she couldn't cope, but atleast she had my dad and me for support, she eventually got my nan into a care home). I don't get any support from my brother, he thinks if he doesn't face it then it isn't happening.
I'm thinking of just leaving, not telling anyone where I am. Let them see what its like, with her moods and aggression, the loss of freedoom and not being able to live your own life. As i'm writing this she,s going on about how useless I am, how she wishes my sister (who died in May) would come home from her holiday so she doesn,t have to be with me anymore.
I'm sorry I went off my original subject and I hope I don't sound like a hard, selfish person, I am trying to do my best, I just don't know what the best is anymore.
As you can probably tell I'm having a feel really sorry for myself day. Thanks for listening, its good to just get it off my chest.
Wheres mum? I must go and find her! (she died 13 years ago)
Why havn't I heard from Fred, I havn't seen him for ages. (he,s her uncle and died 12 years ago)
Shes also keeping on asking about the house she gave up to come and live with me, she keeps saying she wants to go back (not possible, but very tempting )
While I'm writing this I'm thinking how trivial this sounds and shouldn't really be a problem, but it really is driving me mad. She asks atleast 10 or 15 times a day, each time swearing i've never told her any of it before. I feel so sorry for her not remembering, I can't even begin to think how hard this is for her, but its so frustrating for me, having to say the same thing over and over again. It wouldn't be so bad if she believed me when I tell her she knows everything, but she accuses me of lying to her, then I get angry and shout, then feel so guilty.
I know i'm not handling the situation very well, and I don't think I ever will, I havn't got the patience for it (I'm alot like my mum was when my nan had alzheimers, she couldn't cope, but atleast she had my dad and me for support, she eventually got my nan into a care home). I don't get any support from my brother, he thinks if he doesn't face it then it isn't happening.
I'm thinking of just leaving, not telling anyone where I am. Let them see what its like, with her moods and aggression, the loss of freedoom and not being able to live your own life. As i'm writing this she,s going on about how useless I am, how she wishes my sister (who died in May) would come home from her holiday so she doesn,t have to be with me anymore.
I'm sorry I went off my original subject and I hope I don't sound like a hard, selfish person, I am trying to do my best, I just don't know what the best is anymore.
As you can probably tell I'm having a feel really sorry for myself day. Thanks for listening, its good to just get it off my chest.