My social worker has asked me to choose between sheltered extra care or a residential home. my mum has deteriorated this summer, is incontinent, reluctant to eat or drink, has very poor short and long term memory and can't socialise without lots of one to one support. She goes through periods of acute anxiety "I can't bear to be in the house, it's like a prison" and can't always tell whether I (daughter) "am real" or has she dreamt about me? She has been found sitting in her front doorway at night, "waiting to be collected" My feeling is that she needs someone around all the time? What are your experiences of sheltered housing with extra care? Thanks.