Mum's 60 at the end of the month and were gunna plan a little party with her friends either at the care home or at a local gardens she loves ( weather permitting). I'm not sure how I feel as if mum didn't have dementia we be having a big party and celebrating going out for meal etc I'd want to buy her something beautiful and meaningful but now she has this cruel disease and 60 is a milestone (she's had early onset frontal lobe for 4 years) this is potentially the last big birthday she'll have if that makes sense. I suppose I'm just feeling another sense of sadness and loss again. .
You have every right to feel sad
@sford91 I know I would have felt the loss keenly, in your situation. As it is, I am in my late sixties and am the carer for my Mum, who is aged nearly 97. It all goes to show the essential, random unfairness of illness, and from our point of view, of dementia.
I don’t know what to say, really. My first thought was ‘celebrate what you have, in the here and now, and try not to think of what you’ve lost and will lose’ . I do believe that, truly, but it in the circumstances it sounds trite somehow
I think I can only send you (((hugs)))
Thinking of you.
Love
Lindy xx